Friday was a busy day. We hopped from parental visits to a birthday brunch and back home again to prepare our shabbat evening meal. My parents took us out for coffee to a local park, where we stumbled across a farmer’s market. We happily sampled sweet little cherry tomatoes, crusty bread and tempting home-made cheeses (where Ninja lingered longingly but didn’t buy), luscious figs, crisp apples, lovely thick celery and cherries that were too expensive for the likes of us. We restrained ourselves and left with some organic cucumbers, a tub of pickles for Ninja (Me: “Pickles are cucumber’s evil cousin”), a few bunches of pink and white lisianthus and a huge punnet of fresh apricots.
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A week or so before I got married my mother-in-law (who is renowned for her baking) handed me a pretty little blue box adorned with cheerful sunflowers and bright red apples. Inside, I was delighted to find index cards with recipes for some of her well-loved dishes, painstakingly written out by hand. She had made sure to include some of Ninja’s favourites including Pecan pie, sweet and sour meatballs and potato kugel; useful recipes for challah, soups and marinades; and banana coffee cake with chocolate chip streusel for me.
As this special and thoughtful gift might indicate, the Cohens are big on food (without being big from food). They joke that their family motto is: ” We meet, we eat” and they really do share some quality family time around the dining room table. For someone with a sweet tooth like me, being set loose in the Cohen household is a serious liability.
I once read that there are two key factors to maintaining a happy marriage.
1) Always keep paths of communication open
2) Take frequent weekend breaks
Although I am still a new(ish) bride…this makes darn good sense to me. It is very hard to argue with one’s nearest and dearest when you’ve been plied with wine and chocolates, you are well-rested, and there are no household chores waiting to be done. I don’t think it needs to be a luxurious break – even a camping trip – or any kind of change of scenery (alone) would probably do the job…
Being a newlywed (eight months still counts, right?) isn’t always easy. There are so many things to get used to and so much work to be done – becoming more tolerant, more patient, less irritable, less irritating…
Etan and I did not live together before we got married so we are still getting used to the day-to-day issues of sharing each other’s personal space. From tucking in the shower curtain so the bathroom floor doesn’t get soaked to controlling the urge to yell from another room, (or worse, from the toilet) – we are all learning new things. Actually, we do pretty well, mainly because Etan doesn’t give me too hard a time about being a control freak. Still, there are some issues which I’m not yet sure how to reslove.
One thing in particualr has been bothering us recently, and it can’t only be us – this MUST be something other couples deal with. It happens something like this…11:36pm Etan: (in front of the tv) I’m REALLY tired Jo (in front of the computer): ok. I’m not done yet. I still have to finish my homework, make up an aerobics routine, do something on Facebook and bake a cake. So – I should be about half a hour. Etan: ok 12:10pm Etan: ok, I’m falling asleep on the sofa, I have to go to bed. Jo: Ok, so you go and I’ll join you soon. I’m almost done Etan: but I want to go to bed WITH you…
Then one of 3 things can happen:
1) I come to bed, despite not having finished whatever it was I wanted to do, probably annoyed.
2) Etan goes to bed without me and we’re both a bit sad.
3) Etan waits up for me and then he’s really tired the next day
So..what to do? Answers on a postcard please. I just seem to wake up late at night…How do other people who share a bed deal with entirely diferent energy cycles?